She’s More Than Cancer

by | Mar 12, 2013 | Uncategorized | 10 comments

It’s Spring Break this week and the boys are romping and stomping – enjoying every minute of their free time. I, on the other hand, can’t sleep, have a heavy heart and am shedding tears…often.

You see, my dear friend lost her battle with cancer on Friday morning.

Susan Birdsong was amazing!  She was that girl who was friends to everyone and everyone wanted to be her friend.  I swear I think there are about a million people in the world who would call her their best friend.

No matter where she lived – Houston, Cedar Park, North Carolina, or suburban Chicago – Susan touched those around her with her infectious laughter, her sincerity and her keen ability to make others feel special.

I should know.  She was my first friend in Cedar Park because she was my next door neighbor.  That was in 1997.

Our friendship started with a few “hi’s” and grew quickly into a glass of wine, sitting in the driveway.  (Yep.  That’s how we do things on Eclipse Cove!)

I bullied her into running with me in the wee-hours of the morning and hence, started our days with long talks about life, husbands, jobs, and everything else under the sun.

Then one day I asked her to join me in my search to find a church home.  I have no idea why I asked her to assist and strangely she said yes.

We visited Bethany United Methodist Church and never left.  From there – we started our faith journey.  And what a trip it has been!!

Between books, classes, services, Alpha and a Walk to Emmaus, Susan and I matured from next door neighbors to sisters in Christ.

So, even though I am terribly sad that she is gone, I know where she is.

Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life. He does not come into judgment, but has passed from death to life. John 5:24

In her honor, I’d like to share a poem I wrote for her on September 30, 2010.  Susan was awesome!! I know it’s an over-used word, but it just fits because she was AWESOME!


She’s a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend

She’s a wife and a lover with a heart on the mend

It’s been broken, you see, by an ugly old ass

Don’t mean to offend.  Don’t mean to be crass


It’s cancer, this thief, which takes young and old

Touches its claws on the meek and the bold

Comes out of the dark and cuts like a knife

Bloodies and breaks, trying to shatter her life


She struggles to escape the shock of her plight

She races to be free of this horror and fright

The battle is on.  Make no mistake

There’s no way in hell, her soul, will it take


The more that she hears, the madder she gets

What do you mean?  She can’t keep her breasts?

Oh goodness, you say, you think it might spread

Will she end up with cancer from toes to her head?


Cancer started this war, but will not succeed

Chains cannot bind a heart that’s been freed

She can laugh, she can tease, she can love, she can shout

She will fight all the way without any doubt


Her family deserves the best that she’s got

Refusing to fail, she’ll give all things a shot

There’s many like her who’ve gone down this road

God’s courage and strength help her carry her load


Her life is much more than a disease in her chest

She’s living today, let’s forget all the rest

God only knows where her story might end

Today she will smile, surrounded by the love of her friends.


Some Wisdom for Today:  Proverbs 3:5 – Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.


  1. Christine

    Oh so beautiful. I know she’s smiling down and grateful for the moment you first met. Love you friend.

    • meghays

      Thank you, my precious friend!

  2. Jason

    She sounds like a wonderful friend. I am sorry for your loss. We can all take hope that she has made the journey where we all hope to be and that you will meet again someday. I pray that the Lord will give you comfort in this time of sorrow.

    • meghays

      Thanks, Jason! She was awesome!

  3. Kelly

    Our hearts are consoled by the fact that she is dancing with Jesus. Love you sister.

    • meghays

      Plus, she was greeted by some amazing men (stephen, martin, dad)!!!

  4. Denise

    Excellent poem Meg, and wonderful tribute to, I am sure, someone who was an AWESOME friend. So sorry for your loss here on earth. I might have to borrow that poem sometime for some of my patients as inspiration, kinda of reminds me of the one, “What Cancer Cannot Do”. Love and think of you often.

    • meghays

      Thanks, Denise! Absolutely share as often as you’d like! I really wish you could have been Susan’s hospice nurse – you guys would have gotten along fabulously! Love you!!!

  5. Sandy

    Beautiful! How sorely she will be missed.

    • meghays

      I love you, Sandy.


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