Marriage

perfect marriageTomorrow marks my twenty-second wedding anniversary!  Woohoo!!  I know, it’s crazy that we haven’t killed each other yet…although, there is still time!!  HAHA!

For us, we usually just go to a nice dinner and exchange cards.  So, as I was browsing the card isle the other day looking for the perfect message to give to my special man I couldn’t find one that said exactly how I feel.  So, I glanced over at the lady next to me who was doing the same thing and asked her, “Why don’t they have an anniversary card that says…Sometimes you can be a jerk, but I love you a lot anyway…?” 

Of course, the same could be said about me.  Just ask Lee!!

I’m obviously kidding because I truly couldn’t ask for a more honest, loving, caring and hardworking human being to share my life with.  He is amazing and we continue to grow in our love every year.  I am very blessed and can only thank God for giving me this wonderful gift.

On the flip side, marriage is not always a bed of roses.  In fact, I would say that it is one of the toughest relationships to manage because we are all so different and we must compromise and work towards peaceful resolutions in many circumstances.

I’ve been told that slamming doors isn’t really a peaceful gesture, but it sure makes me feel better!!!  Guess after all these years, I still have things to work on!

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1Corinthians 13:4-7

The above scripture isn’t just for husbands and wives.  The truth is that we can all be jerks sometimes and most of us can do it on multiple occasions.

What we should remember is that love isn’t really something we feel, but it is a decision that we have to make on a regular basis for most of the people in our lives. These people include husbands, wives, family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, the guy cutting you off at the intersection and any other person we encounter.

Unfortunately, the world tells us that if marriage, or any relationship for that matter, gets too hard we can just throw it away and start over. 

Forgiveness is the key to any lasting relationship no matter who it is with.  God intends for us to forgive others and often.

Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven. Matthew 18:21-22

Forgiveness is the glue in all relationships. It offers love in the midst of anger, resentment, unmet expectations, feelings of betrayal, and many more feelings that eat away at our peace.

Plus, it is like the old adage that says, “Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”

We can all use an extra dose of love in any relationship we are in.  For me, I hope and pray that God continues to help me love my husband at all times and helps us forgive each other even when we don’t deserve it!

Some Wisdom for Today:  Proverbs 18:22 – He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

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  1. What a great post. Thank you so much for sharing.

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